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Hi everyone.
It's 04:41 AM here, just thought I would write down some thoughts here, predominantly for myself to get a better overview in my head. Last time I wrote a personal blogpost was a long time ago. Yesterday I came home at 08 AM from a political/chill party and later watched The Joker with my family, which was great. Anyway.
This blog is aimed at no one in particular. I made a vlog about this post, because I accidentally closed my browser window while typing, and I lost everything. I was really pissed at myself and it was like 03-04 AM, which ruined the next day a bit tbh.
I worked long on that blogpost, but I have made this shorter one, instead of what I had planned. I can't turn back time; I must learn from my mistakes.
Here's the corresponding YouTube vlog:
This year has been many things; I was initially planning on having a more relaxed year (which is why I took less courses), but that certainly didn't happen.
Here's what I have used time on in 2019:
- Civil procedure law course and exam
- Trying for a driver's license
- Getting an unpaid job
- Getting a paid job
- Cepos Academy
- Extended taxation law course and exam
- A little modeling and music in my free time
- Feature on my friend's song
- Helping my mom with new laptop, phone and iPad
- Helping with bathroom renovation plans, research and designs
- Getting a cat???
- Applying for Justitia Academy
- Helping mom plan citizenship test
Civil procedure law course and exam went OK. I got an alright, above passing grade. I didn't care much for the course, but I see it as necessary to have. It's not very exciting and reminded me of General Administrative Law, which I had many years ago. It's all about dates and deadlines. It's very dusty.
Driver's license probably shocked me and fucked me the most over.
First of all, in Denmark it is waaaay to expensive to take. It's understandable, since Denmark hates cars and try to make people not want to buy any cars, use any cars or park any cars, ever.
Second of all, the tests are silly and written in "weird old danish" and not very logical to understand – it's something you just have to memorize to pass, even if the answers do not seem like something a normal person would answer.
Third of all, I feel like my first driving school fucked me over and deliberately stalled me for as long as possible, without letting me progress at all. I don't feel like I learned much and I almost paid 9.000 DKK extra for my license, which really made me mad/disappointed.
My new driving school is better and let me progress very quickly.
Cepos Academy was really fun and I learned a lot.
Met many like minded people and used 8 days in total for discussions about politics, economy, philosophy, morals and the likes. We discussed for hours and heard about different viewpoints on important subject matters.
One downside was that the rooms were way too cold and many students complained about this (esp. the girls, lol). Other than that I'm happy I got in and it was a nice break from extended tax law, which as a course just makes me so sad.
Extended taxation law course and exam did not go over well. The course felt very long, even though we had a great, charismatic teacher. I got sad whenever I real about taxation and felt that the book was shitty and way too long and didn't get to the point. The shorter compendium was much more useful to me.
Extended taxation law course and exam did not go over well. The course felt very long, even though we had a great, charismatic teacher. I got sad whenever I real about taxation and felt that the book was shitty and way too long and didn't get to the point. The shorter compendium was much more useful to me.
In the exam I blacked out and forgot everything. I hate exams and get really really really anxious. I can't sleep for days, I get bad skin, I get bad stomach, I get headaches... I feel like dying.
I am disappointed in myself because I studied really well and felt like I didn't deserve to go out and have fun with my friends. I hated myself after that exam, so much. I'll try better next time. I generally have a bad time with exams.
Getting a cat as a gift from my dad. It really shocked me when I got it, but as my dad has taught me, sometimes I can be too perfectionistic and not spontaneous enough. The cat is female and she's a delight with a quirky personality. I named her Laika, after the first living being in orbit (the Russian dog Laika, which ironically means "the barker" or something like that).
For Christmas I didn’t really wish for anything material, I wished for time, stability, health, security and passing exams... which no human can buy.
Here you can see our Christmas tree and me on Christmas Eve: https://www.instagram.com/p/B6rp14RhXhX/
I am thankful for, in general:
Adult life + Danish worldview
People always told me that "When you are young and in school it's the best time of your life". Sadly, I don't see that as being the case.
I should be happy to live in Denmark and having a good degree and a nice family, but I just sense that life could be more, better and more efficient.
I am always thinking about the future and what will come next.
In my country I feel like a cog in a wheel. A huge wheel that is only based on taxing the shit out of everyone and making everyone as equal/mediocre as possible. I think this is scaring the entrepreneurs and visionaries away.
Life in Denmark isn't 100% fulfilling for me.
Danish people are usually very different from other nationalities and this is also why dating Danish guys hasn't "clicked" for me. I tend to think very deeply about everything and I have visions for the future. I don't want to be passive and follow rules mindlessly.
As I said in my YouTube video, a dictator could easily overtake the Danish people; it's a very non-confrontational people and tend to protest behind people's backs rather than say it directly to the person in question's face.
"According to Maslow, we have five categories of needs: physiological, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. In this theory, higher needs in the hierarchy begin to emerge when people feel they have sufficiently satisfied the previous need."
As we see in Maslow's pyramid of needs; Self-actualization is the thing I feel like I am missing from interactions with Denmark and Danish people. They do many things greatly, but I wish they would protest more.
Maybe it has some roots in the "Jantelov" (Law of Jante):
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Jante
Things in Denmark that would personally make me happier:
Getting a cat as a gift from my dad. It really shocked me when I got it, but as my dad has taught me, sometimes I can be too perfectionistic and not spontaneous enough. The cat is female and she's a delight with a quirky personality. I named her Laika, after the first living being in orbit (the Russian dog Laika, which ironically means "the barker" or something like that).
For Christmas I didn’t really wish for anything material, I wished for time, stability, health, security and passing exams... which no human can buy.
Here you can see our Christmas tree and me on Christmas Eve: https://www.instagram.com/p/B6rp14RhXhX/
I am thankful for, in general:
- That I didn't get thrown out of uni
- That mom is happy and has a sweet boyfriend
- That brother is loving his job and progressing
- That dad is doing OK and living as he pleases
- That I am physically healthy, have a roof over me, have food, clothes and devices
- That I am slowly but surely moving on with my degree
- That I have a family – brings tears to my eyes to know how much they've done for me, I feel like I wasn't thankful for this when I was a tween/teenager
- That I can enjoy music, art, fashion and shows
- That I got the two jobs and am getting experience and a salary
- That I have privacy and freedom of expression (which you only really appreciate when it's gone)
Adult life + Danish worldview
People always told me that "When you are young and in school it's the best time of your life". Sadly, I don't see that as being the case.
I should be happy to live in Denmark and having a good degree and a nice family, but I just sense that life could be more, better and more efficient.
I am always thinking about the future and what will come next.
In my country I feel like a cog in a wheel. A huge wheel that is only based on taxing the shit out of everyone and making everyone as equal/mediocre as possible. I think this is scaring the entrepreneurs and visionaries away.
Life in Denmark isn't 100% fulfilling for me.
Danish people are usually very different from other nationalities and this is also why dating Danish guys hasn't "clicked" for me. I tend to think very deeply about everything and I have visions for the future. I don't want to be passive and follow rules mindlessly.
As I said in my YouTube video, a dictator could easily overtake the Danish people; it's a very non-confrontational people and tend to protest behind people's backs rather than say it directly to the person in question's face.
"According to Maslow, we have five categories of needs: physiological, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. In this theory, higher needs in the hierarchy begin to emerge when people feel they have sufficiently satisfied the previous need."
As we see in Maslow's pyramid of needs; Self-actualization is the thing I feel like I am missing from interactions with Denmark and Danish people. They do many things greatly, but I wish they would protest more.
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Maybe it has some roots in the "Jantelov" (Law of Jante):
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Jante
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| Image source: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/256283035029820667/ |
Things in Denmark that would personally make me happier:
Remove the blasphemy lawMake beastiality sex illegal- Separate church and state more
- Lower taxes
- Encourage people to think for themselves/protest more
- Make circumcision illegal
- Remove monarchy and add republic with direct democracy
- Cheaper cars and public transportation
- Change building laws and thereby lower rent
- Make more factories, produce more stuff locally
- Do so there's less calcium in water
- More protection of and rewarding of whistleblowing
- Remove many laws/make laws simpler to understand
- Maybe make a 3-4 days workweek (more freetime)
- Maybe pay workers "pr. job" instead of "pr. hour" (more efficient working)
If you read this blog and/or watched my vlog, I hope you found it interesting. Feel free to comment your thoughts below.
Thank you.
– Victoria
Victoria
SvarSletLots to talk about here. Do you reply to comments? Don't want to waste time writing into the abyss.
Hi O :) Yes, I do. What's on your mind? Best regards, Victoria
SletGratitude always comes to the rescue whenever our minds recite everything we lack, then we just need to count the blessings. There is a great section by Juvenal "The Vanity of Human Wishes" where he advocates to prey for a sound mind in a healthy body and a heart filled with courage without fear of death to endure any hardship.
SvarSletEducation and learning are different, usually people get education for income, but learning doesn't require a school, and is internally motivated, rather than being forced by an institution to satisfy dictated requirements. That is the discrepancy, compulsion can negatively affect motivation. And it would be better to experience work first, then study, because school and work in practice are different. People study and find out later they don't actually enjoy the work. Likewise in reverse, school may be boring, but work engaging.
In regard to self actualization, protest and disagreement can be an approach to learn and attain truth, obviously not when we agree, affirm and fit into each other, but introduce alternative considerations for exploration and growth. Jante Law is probably a way to mitigate envy in society, which has a psychological benefit related to happiness, but the downside may be a detrimental affect on individual motivation, pursuit of self-interest and freedom of personal values.
There can be democracy and republic, such as the US being a constitutional republic and representative democracy, but how would you reconcile a republic and direct democracy? The concept in representation is that people may have opinions and views about policy, but they are not necessarily qualified or educated to change policy directly. Monarchy has a benefit in that it retains tradition and culture of a nation.
Also, can you provide evidence of a cat?
Hey O.
SletSorry for the late response, I was caught up in many things. It is now a joy to read your well worded comments.
Wow, a poem from 1749. I gotta look into that, thank you. I wish to be as strong and fearless as you wrote.
Very true about the education part. We should in fact start with the practical to get a taste of what we're getting ourselves into. I hated most of my school years due to the "inside the box" thinking and strict measures and molds. I could not – and did not want – to fit in anywhere I was forced into.
I hope law will be a bit more fun in practice than in theory, haha!
I do think critical thinking and protesting are super important – most good things today come from that (better human rights, more equality, more free speech, better working conditions etc.). I think these things are taken for granted – why would I not speak up, when people have literally died for me to do that??
Jante Law is like a double edged sword. The negatives far outweigh the positives to me, though. I think people lack a strong identity and motivation. The only good part is that people are more chill, laid back and down to earth, no matter their richness/status.
In Denmark republic is sometimes in street talk seen as "a government that is not ruled by monarchy" – and I don't think it opposes direct democracy completely. I feel that what I want is a representative democracy, but with some parts being direct democracy – I think we should especially in the municipalities let people speak more directly on what the money should be used for. I would need to research more about government, state and politics to speak better about this subject.
Monarchy is not something I want to respect due to 1) it being based on violence and oppression (and part inbreeding) 2) it not being based on merits and character 3) the royals being above the law (and taxes) and 4) I don't think their work is very valuable and I don’t think they’ve earned their lifestyle.
I wish to upload some videos of the cute cat soon, which has grown to be a large tiger by now, haha! She is a peculiar cat, a cream colored european shorthair tabby :)
P.S. Can you link me to your own blog or something?
Best regards, Victoria
Don't have a blog, just Facebook and Odnoklassniki if you want to connect there.
SvarSletSure, what's your name there?
SletOr you can find me by searching "Victoria Sobocki". (Is it even possible to write a pm on blogspot? Lol).
Best regards Victoria