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Hi everyone.
It's 04:41 AM here, just thought I would write down some thoughts here, predominantly for myself to get a better overview in my head. Last time I wrote a personal blogpost was a long time ago. Yesterday I came home at 08 AM from a political/chill party and later watched The Joker with my family, which was great. Anyway.
This blog is aimed at no one in particular. I made a vlog about this post, because I accidentally closed my browser window while typing, and I lost everything. I was really pissed at myself and it was like 03-04 AM, which ruined the next day a bit tbh.
I worked long on that blogpost, but I have made this shorter one, instead of what I had planned. I can't turn back time; I must learn from my mistakes.
Here's the corresponding YouTube vlog:
This year has been many things; I was initially planning on having a more relaxed year (which is why I took less courses), but that certainly didn't happen.
Here's what I have used time on in 2019:
- Civil procedure law course and exam
- Trying for a driver's license
- Getting an unpaid job
- Getting a paid job
- Cepos Academy
- Extended taxation law course and exam
- A little modeling and music in my free time
- Feature on my friend's song
- Helping my mom with new laptop, phone and iPad
- Helping with bathroom renovation plans, research and designs
- Getting a cat???
- Applying for Justitia Academy
- Helping mom plan citizenship test
Civil procedure law course and exam went OK. I got an alright, above passing grade. I didn't care much for the course, but I see it as necessary to have. It's not very exciting and reminded me of General Administrative Law, which I had many years ago. It's all about dates and deadlines. It's very dusty.
Driver's license probably shocked me and fucked me the most over.
First of all, in Denmark it is waaaay to expensive to take. It's understandable, since Denmark hates cars and try to make people not want to buy any cars, use any cars or park any cars, ever.
Second of all, the tests are silly and written in "weird old danish" and not very logical to understand – it's something you just have to memorize to pass, even if the answers do not seem like something a normal person would answer.
Third of all, I feel like my first driving school fucked me over and deliberately stalled me for as long as possible, without letting me progress at all. I don't feel like I learned much and I almost paid 9.000 DKK extra for my license, which really made me mad/disappointed.
My new driving school is better and let me progress very quickly.
Cepos Academy was really fun and I learned a lot.
Met many like minded people and used 8 days in total for discussions about politics, economy, philosophy, morals and the likes. We discussed for hours and heard about different viewpoints on important subject matters.
One downside was that the rooms were way too cold and many students complained about this (esp. the girls, lol). Other than that I'm happy I got in and it was a nice break from extended tax law, which as a course just makes me so sad.
Extended taxation law course and exam did not go over well. The course felt very long, even though we had a great, charismatic teacher. I got sad whenever I real about taxation and felt that the book was shitty and way too long and didn't get to the point. The shorter compendium was much more useful to me.
Extended taxation law course and exam did not go over well. The course felt very long, even though we had a great, charismatic teacher. I got sad whenever I real about taxation and felt that the book was shitty and way too long and didn't get to the point. The shorter compendium was much more useful to me.
In the exam I blacked out and forgot everything. I hate exams and get really really really anxious. I can't sleep for days, I get bad skin, I get bad stomach, I get headaches... I feel like dying.
I am disappointed in myself because I studied really well and felt like I didn't deserve to go out and have fun with my friends. I hated myself after that exam, so much. I'll try better next time. I generally have a bad time with exams.
Getting a cat as a gift from my dad. It really shocked me when I got it, but as my dad has taught me, sometimes I can be too perfectionistic and not spontaneous enough. The cat is female and she's a delight with a quirky personality. I named her Laika, after the first living being in orbit (the Russian dog Laika, which ironically means "the barker" or something like that).
For Christmas I didn’t really wish for anything material, I wished for time, stability, health, security and passing exams... which no human can buy.
Here you can see our Christmas tree and me on Christmas Eve: https://www.instagram.com/p/B6rp14RhXhX/
I am thankful for, in general:
Adult life + Danish worldview
People always told me that "When you are young and in school it's the best time of your life". Sadly, I don't see that as being the case.
I should be happy to live in Denmark and having a good degree and a nice family, but I just sense that life could be more, better and more efficient.
I am always thinking about the future and what will come next.
In my country I feel like a cog in a wheel. A huge wheel that is only based on taxing the shit out of everyone and making everyone as equal/mediocre as possible. I think this is scaring the entrepreneurs and visionaries away.
Life in Denmark isn't 100% fulfilling for me.
Danish people are usually very different from other nationalities and this is also why dating Danish guys hasn't "clicked" for me. I tend to think very deeply about everything and I have visions for the future. I don't want to be passive and follow rules mindlessly.
As I said in my YouTube video, a dictator could easily overtake the Danish people; it's a very non-confrontational people and tend to protest behind people's backs rather than say it directly to the person in question's face.
"According to Maslow, we have five categories of needs: physiological, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. In this theory, higher needs in the hierarchy begin to emerge when people feel they have sufficiently satisfied the previous need."
As we see in Maslow's pyramid of needs; Self-actualization is the thing I feel like I am missing from interactions with Denmark and Danish people. They do many things greatly, but I wish they would protest more.
Maybe it has some roots in the "Jantelov" (Law of Jante):
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Jante
Things in Denmark that would personally make me happier:
Getting a cat as a gift from my dad. It really shocked me when I got it, but as my dad has taught me, sometimes I can be too perfectionistic and not spontaneous enough. The cat is female and she's a delight with a quirky personality. I named her Laika, after the first living being in orbit (the Russian dog Laika, which ironically means "the barker" or something like that).
For Christmas I didn’t really wish for anything material, I wished for time, stability, health, security and passing exams... which no human can buy.
Here you can see our Christmas tree and me on Christmas Eve: https://www.instagram.com/p/B6rp14RhXhX/
I am thankful for, in general:
- That I didn't get thrown out of uni
- That mom is happy and has a sweet boyfriend
- That brother is loving his job and progressing
- That dad is doing OK and living as he pleases
- That I am physically healthy, have a roof over me, have food, clothes and devices
- That I am slowly but surely moving on with my degree
- That I have a family – brings tears to my eyes to know how much they've done for me, I feel like I wasn't thankful for this when I was a tween/teenager
- That I can enjoy music, art, fashion and shows
- That I got the two jobs and am getting experience and a salary
- That I have privacy and freedom of expression (which you only really appreciate when it's gone)
Adult life + Danish worldview
People always told me that "When you are young and in school it's the best time of your life". Sadly, I don't see that as being the case.
I should be happy to live in Denmark and having a good degree and a nice family, but I just sense that life could be more, better and more efficient.
I am always thinking about the future and what will come next.
In my country I feel like a cog in a wheel. A huge wheel that is only based on taxing the shit out of everyone and making everyone as equal/mediocre as possible. I think this is scaring the entrepreneurs and visionaries away.
Life in Denmark isn't 100% fulfilling for me.
Danish people are usually very different from other nationalities and this is also why dating Danish guys hasn't "clicked" for me. I tend to think very deeply about everything and I have visions for the future. I don't want to be passive and follow rules mindlessly.
As I said in my YouTube video, a dictator could easily overtake the Danish people; it's a very non-confrontational people and tend to protest behind people's backs rather than say it directly to the person in question's face.
"According to Maslow, we have five categories of needs: physiological, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. In this theory, higher needs in the hierarchy begin to emerge when people feel they have sufficiently satisfied the previous need."
As we see in Maslow's pyramid of needs; Self-actualization is the thing I feel like I am missing from interactions with Denmark and Danish people. They do many things greatly, but I wish they would protest more.
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Maybe it has some roots in the "Jantelov" (Law of Jante):
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Jante
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| Image source: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/256283035029820667/ |
Things in Denmark that would personally make me happier:
Remove the blasphemy lawMake beastiality sex illegal- Separate church and state more
- Lower taxes
- Encourage people to think for themselves/protest more
- Make circumcision illegal
- Remove monarchy and add republic with direct democracy
- Cheaper cars and public transportation
- Change building laws and thereby lower rent
- Make more factories, produce more stuff locally
- Do so there's less calcium in water
- More protection of and rewarding of whistleblowing
- Remove many laws/make laws simpler to understand
- Maybe make a 3-4 days workweek (more freetime)
- Maybe pay workers "pr. job" instead of "pr. hour" (more efficient working)
If you read this blog and/or watched my vlog, I hope you found it interesting. Feel free to comment your thoughts below.
Thank you.
– Victoria